Dear Dr Sivri,
I am really embarrassed about my problem. Actually, it’s more to do with my lifestyle really. I feel so ashamed, I don’t know where to start.
I am a 39-year-old woman who has been married and divorced twice.
I married very young the first time around – I was 18 years old. We had two girls, but the marriage only lasted about five years. It was a terrible marriage really. We were too young. We argued all the time and he often got violent with me.
My second marriage was when I was 30. That too was a terrible marriage and he too was often abusive and violent towards me. That marriage only lasted three years.
My main problem is this: I moved back in with my parents between marriages, in fact they were the ones who brought up my kids. I was always out and about and I still am.
I drink a lot, I go on lots of dates with men, and occasionally, I take drugs. Especially cocaine, I am ashamed to say. I often find myself in very compromising situations with men.
When I drink or take coke, I usually end up getting together with a man, and I am ashamed of my actions and want to stop living like this.
I actually have my own business, so to my clients, friends and family, I am a respectable woman, but deep down I feel worthless and cheap.
Growing up I was always arguing with my father and I still do in fact. He is very strict, and I keep everything hidden from him.
I have one younger sister, and it’s like she is the ‘Golden Child’ because whatever she does is never wrong.
Please help me as I don’t know what I can do.